People struggling with addiction face temptation all the time. That’s why it’s so important for a person in recovery to develop a strong support system of sober people for them to turn to during times of weakness. Here are some tips on how to build the best sober network possible.
Keep Relationships Platonic
People in recovery are vulnerable, especially when they are first building relationships and going through the program. This vulnerability can make intimate relationships particularly attractive, but it’s extremely important for people to keep their relationships platonic. Experts recommend staying single for at least a year after starting treatment. This gives you time to focus on yourself and your sobriety. Hopefully after a year, you have a clear (and sober) mindset that can help you make the best decision possible.
Find Support in the Right Place
Many people find it difficult to step out of their comfort zone to look for support. Remember that this makes you strong and in control of your destiny. How do you get started, though?
The first place to look is at your local AA meeting. If you don’t want to look there, look in your local church or support group. Find people who have been sober for a long time, have a good attitude, and want to help you succeed.
Accept the help and be grateful. You won’t only meet new friends, but you will meet new friends who help change your life for the better.
Say Goodbye to Destructive Relationships
Many addicts have friends for years that follow similar destructive patterns. You may want to stay close with your old friends, but you need to take care of yourself first. Stay away from people who are using or under the influence around you. This may create temptation, and it could even get you in trouble for being around the person. It can be painful, but you may need to separate yourself or limit contact with family and even relationships.
This does not mean that you cannot keep old friends. This means that you need to create clear boundaries. Hopefully, when they are ready, they may come to you to help them become clean, too.
Stay Motivated and Positive
You won’t create the right relationships or get the help you need unless you are ready to put in the work. The right attitude can make the difference between sobriety and relapse. Find tools to help you stay motivated. When you do lose your motivation, utilize your tools and your sober network to get the encouragement you need to stay on track. While not every day will be perfect, if you keep the right mindset, your days will continually get better. This is not an easy journey. That’s why you need support. Don’t get discouraged. Stay positive and stay on the right track.
A sober network is a great way to get the support you need while you improve your life. You will feel happier and more supported than you ever have. As long as you take the time to let it work.